Having unprotected sex with him (especially in the back entrance, which is more dangerous) is a bad idea as well, especially if you suspect that he’s been fooling around. It was good but very awkward. And all will be revealed. I’m curious if he is bisexual. Laura,your marriage will survive,actually probably get stronger. Laura : the problem is not you. It all depends on your comfort level.
What happens when you discover that your spouse is bisexual?
I had 2 of them on a regular basis and had fun,when we got old enough to date girls all of a sudden they stopped m2m sex. The first issue i see here is that if he made those appointments during your relationship (not before you got together), then he cheated.